{"id":26815,"date":"2026-04-23T00:57:56","date_gmt":"2026-04-23T00:57:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/didebta.com\/?p=26815"},"modified":"2026-04-23T00:57:57","modified_gmt":"2026-04-23T00:57:57","slug":"14-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/didebta.com\/?p=26815","title":{"rendered":"14 Signs You\u2019re in a Toxic Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<p>The people in your life have a profound impact on your well-being. We\u2019ll all experience the ups and downs of living with and loving imperfect people, but ultimately, our relationships should be a source of joy\u2014not ongoing frustration or fear.<\/p>\n<p>A toxic relationship is one that consistently leaves you feeling unsafe, unheard or drained. Maybe you\u2019re being dismissed or manipulated. Maybe you\u2019ve started walking on eggshells or losing your sense of self. When these patterns show up again and again, it\u2019s a sign something deeper is going on.<\/p>\n<p>Every human being on the planet is worth having rich, rewarding, and safe relationships. And every human being has a responsibility to co-create those relationships. So let\u2019s learn to spot the signs of a toxic relationship so you can start creating healthy ones instead.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>What Is a Toxic Relationship? (Definition + Examples)<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>A toxic relationship is one that has unhealthy dynamics and causes you distress or harm because you\u2019re unsupported, manipulated or disrespected. While we all have our moments and seasons of selfishness, a truly toxic person will take and take\u2014and give nothing in return. It\u2019s like being bitten by a vampire and drained of your energy, joy and autonomy. You find yourself serving someone at the expense of your feelings, needs and well-being.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014service and sacrifice are part of a good relationship. And so are challenges, disagreements,\u00a0forgiveness\u00a0and discomfort. But a healthy relationship is\u00a0<em>mutually<\/em>\u00a0life-giving. The challenges and sacrifices ebb and flow toward connection and love.<\/p>\n<p>And by the way, most people talk about toxic relationships in the context of romance. But the reality is that\u00a0<em>any<\/em>\u00a0relationship can become toxic, including relationships with coworkers, in-laws, parents, siblings and\u00a0friends.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Toxic vs. Healthy Relationship Behaviors<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Nobody wakes up excited to admit a relationship has gone off the rails. Calling something \u201ctoxic\u201d feels heavy. It makes the situation real. It forces you to wrestle with the hard truth that you might need to set new boundaries, walk away from a dating relationship, or create distance from people you love.<\/p>\n<p>But here\u2019s the deal: You can\u2019t heal what you won\u2019t name. You\u2019ve got to take an honest look at the patterns showing up in your relationships\u2014even when the unhealthy behaviors are coming from you.<\/p>\n<p>Here are some common signs that show the difference between toxic behaviors and healthy ones.<\/p>\n<table>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Toxic Behavior<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Healthy Behavior<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<ul>\n<li>Controlling<\/li>\n<li>Manipulative<\/li>\n<li>Bitter<\/li>\n<li>Blaming<\/li>\n<li>Closed-off<\/li>\n<li>Harsh<\/li>\n<li>Unreliable<\/li>\n<li>Reactive<\/li>\n<li>Dismissive<\/li>\n<li>Entitled<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<ul>\n<li>Supportive<\/li>\n<li>Honest<\/li>\n<li>Grateful<\/li>\n<li>Accountable<\/li>\n<li>Open<\/li>\n<li>Gentle<\/li>\n<li>Dependable<\/li>\n<li>Thoughtful<\/li>\n<li>Attentive<\/li>\n<li>Humble<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<h3><strong>Toxic vs. Abusive Relationships: What\u2019s the Difference?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Before we move on, I want to share one important caveat: Don\u2019t confuse\u00a0<em>toxic<\/em>\u00a0with<em>\u00a0abusive<\/em>.\u00a0Abuse\u00a0is an extreme form of toxicity, and it should\u00a0<em>never\u00a0<\/em>be tolerated by anyone for any reason or for any amount of time.<\/p>\n<p>If you or anyone you know is trapped in a physically, sexually or emotionally abusive relationship, please reach out to the appropriate professionals for help\u201a including the police. You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. You and your loved ones are worth being safe.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>The Top 14 Signs of a Toxic Relationship\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>So how do we distinguish between the normal challenges of any relationship and a truly toxic one? Before we dive into the details, here\u2019s a quick look at the most common signs of a toxic relationship. Use this list as a gut check. If several of these feel familiar, it\u2019s worth slowing down and paying attention.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You don\u2019t feel emotionally safe.<\/li>\n<li>Communication is poor or nonexistent.<\/li>\n<li>You feel ignored, used or exploited.<\/li>\n<li>You feel like you\u2019ve lost your identity.<\/li>\n<li>Judgment\u2014not curiosity\u2014is the norm.<\/li>\n<li>They belittle you or make you feel ashamed.<\/li>\n<li>They show no empathy.<\/li>\n<li>They always blame you.<\/li>\n<li>You\u2019re stuck in a dysfunctional relationship role.<\/li>\n<li>You feel controlled or manipulated.<\/li>\n<li>You\u2019re walking on eggshells around their anger.<\/li>\n<li>Intense jealousy controls the relationship.<\/li>\n<li>They restrict your money, friends or support system.<\/li>\n<li>They treat every conversation like an attack.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now let\u2019s break these down so you can understand what each sign really looks and feels like in everyday life. Remember\u2014awareness isn\u2019t about shame or blame. It\u2019s about getting clarity so you can make healthier choices moving forward.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>1. You don\u2019t feel emotionally safe.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>I don\u2019t mean physically (although that applies too). I\u2019m talking about a sense of\u00a0emotional safety. Can you openly share your thoughts and feelings with this person? Does your voice matter? Or do you feel like you\u2019re always editing yourself, afraid of what they\u2019d do or say if you were radically honest?<\/p>\n<p>A healthy relationship gives space for people to be imperfect and accountable at the same time. You can tell each other the good stuff and the shameful stuff and openly talk about who has hurt you. You can be fully seen and still be fully loved.<\/p>\n<p>Now let\u2019s be clear: In most cases, you wouldn\u2019t share your\u00a0deepest hurts\u00a0with your in-laws the way you might with a\u00a0trusted friend. Emotional safety has levels, depending on the relationship. It takes wisdom to discern the depth and differences of each relationship.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>2. <\/strong><strong>Communication is poor or nonexistent<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Good communication is the heartbeat of every relationship, and it\u2019s easy to go off the rails without even meaning to. My wife and I have gone through seasons of toxicity because I was afraid to express my needs and desires. I would wish and assume, and when my expectations didn\u2019t become reality, I would judge her, experience massive\u00a0disappointment, and become resentful. It wasn\u2019t until I opened up that we could actually connect.<\/p>\n<p>And make no mistake: Being honest doesn\u2019t mean everything will magically be okay. Things are probably going to be uncomfortable or painful. That\u2019s normal. But burying your hurts and needs deep inside you only leads to resentment.<\/p>\n<p>Often, an emotionally charged\u00a0conversation\u00a0activates our fight, flight or freeze response. You become explosive, tackling the threat head on, or you withdraw into a cold silence.<\/p>\n<p>Other examples of dysfunctional communication include gaslighting, manipulating words, dishonesty, and attaching judgment to someone else\u2019s words without asking for clarification.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>3. <\/strong><strong>You feel ignored, used or exploited<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>I live in the woods in Middle Tennessee. Since we have so much space outside, we planted a garden. Imagine this with me: What if I left my plants to fend for themselves, never watering or weeding or fertilizing? Things wouldn\u2019t end well.<\/p>\n<p>Not to sound like a hippie, but people need nurturing just like my garden. If your partner doesn\u2019t honor and tend to your basic needs\u2014not because you can\u2019t do it, but because they care about you\u2014then you\u2019re not in a healthy relationship. Chances are, you\u2019re not only\u00a0being ignored\u2014you\u2019re also being exploited in a toxic relationship.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>4. You feel like you\u2019ve lost your identity.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Toxic people tend to absorb, manipulate, and mold people to fit their own agendas. Their plans and interests dominate the relationship. You often find yourself doing things you don\u2019t want to do just to please them\u2014violating your core values, going places that make you uncomfortable, or spending time with people who set off your anxiety alarms.<\/p>\n<p>Never forget:\u00a0<em>You<\/em>\u00a0hold the power. It\u2019s up to\u00a0<em>you<\/em>\u2014not your partner\u2014to recognize these patterns and set healthy\u00a0boundaries. It\u2019s your job to say\u00a0<em>no<\/em>, assert yourself, and live in alignment with your values. But toxic people will often become resentful, frustrated or angry when you\u00a0set boundaries\u00a0or live out your values.<\/p>\n<p>This is often hard to see on your own. Give your friends or trusted loved ones permission to speak into your life when they see you disappearing into someone else\u2019s. Those closest to us can often see things we can\u2019t.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>5. Judgment\u2014not curiosity\u2014is the norm.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>We all have weird stuff about us that makes life both fun and challenging. The lifeblood of a\u00a0relationship\u00a0is curiosity, not judgment. If you like waking up early and your spouse likes sleeping in, that\u2019s cool. Instead of saying, \u201cYou should get up earlier,\u201d ask, \u201cWhy do you like sleeping in so late?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And beyond being weird, we all mess up. We say or do things that hurt other people or step on toes or accidentally walk into their personal land mines. But these human missteps don\u2019t equal toxic relationship signs. We need people who care enough to call it out. Being challenged and held accountable are important parts of any healthy relationship. But a toxic person will approach you with condemnation, not compassion. They\u2019ll use your past mistakes as a weapon. Judgment is one of the telltale signs of a toxic relationship.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div>\n<h3><strong>6. <\/strong><strong>They belittle you or make you feel ashamed<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Does this person make you feel less than? Do they belittle you or put you down? Make you feel stupid or ashamed? These are all signs of emotional immaturity\u2014and clear indicators of a toxic relationship. Emotionally immature people need to prop themselves up on a pile of your wrongs, failures and shortcomings. When they can\u2019t find something bad to point out, they tend to invent something or rub your nose in something from the past.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>7. <\/strong><strong>They show no empathy<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Empathy is like a pair of glasses you put on to see the world through someone else\u2019s eyes. It\u2019s choosing to \u201crejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep\u201d (Romans 12:15 ESV). It\u2019s choosing not to lecture those who are going through a hard time about why they should be grateful. And it\u2019s also choosing not to remind people who are doing well of all the suffering in the world.<\/p>\n<p>A toxic person is hyperfocused on their own needs and wants, which blinds them to the realities of the people around them. When you open up and share your heart with a toxic person, you\u2019re met with apathy instead of\u00a0empathy, and redirection instead of celebration. They might dismiss you when you share important things with them, turn the conversation back on themselves, and one-up you when you tell stories.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>8. <\/strong><strong>They always blame you<\/strong><strong>. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Another clear sign you\u2019re in a toxic relationship is when you\u2019re constantly the one getting blamed\u2014no matter what actually happened. When someone pins everything on you, it starts to warp how you see yourself and what you\u2019re responsible for. You end up carrying guilt that isn\u2019t yours and shrinking back from your own needs and boundaries.<\/p>\n<p>And here\u2019s the really toxic part: That blame often shows up alongside gaslighting\u2014when someone intentionally tries to make you question your own memory or reality. That combination is confusing, exhausting and dangerous. It\u2019s not love. It\u2019s control.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>9. <\/strong><strong>You\u2019re stuck in a dysfunctional relationship role<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>We often replay the family dynamics and relational stories of our childhoods in our adult relationships. For better or worse, these stories are our road maps for life. For example, a woman might marry a man who sits on the couch and plays video games all day so she can fulfill a mothering role. Or a child might take on caring for a parent who\u2019s an addict\u201a believing it\u2019s their job to fix their parent.<\/p>\n<p>Being stuck in a dysfunctional role is a sign of a toxic relationship because a relationship like that can\u2019t be mutually life-giving and supportive. Is the person you\u2019re with willing to grow and take accountability for themselves? Are you willing to grow? Because it\u2019s only when we start to question our automatic roles that we begin to heal and change our generational legacies.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>10. You feel controlled or manipulated.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>A toxic person feels a compulsion to tip the power balance in their favor. They might check in on you all the time or constantly bug you about where you\u2019re going and what you\u2019re doing.\u00a0Your partner might weaponize the relationship to manipulate you into doing things. They might withdraw when you upset them and come running back when you do something \u201cright.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A good litmus test for this is to think of something that brings you joy. If you immediately think,\u00a0<em>Yeah, but [insert name here] will get mad<\/em>, you\u2019re probably being controlled or manipulated.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>11. <\/strong><strong>You\u2019re walking on eggshells around their anger<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Toxic people are often critical, mocking and chronically sarcastic. Are you always walking on eggshells around this person? Are they always frustrated by something? Do they explode in episodes of\u00a0rage? A chronically angry person is not emotionally well and cannot be a supportive partner. When you feel like you have to hide, you know it\u2019s toxic.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>12. Intense jealousy <\/strong><strong>controls the relationship<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Passive-aggressive jealousy in response to your everyday life crosses a line. When someone reacts negatively to your normal activities or makes you feel guilty for doing things without them, it shifts from missing you to trying to control you. That kind of behavior can point to a toxic relationship.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>13. <\/strong><strong>They restrict your money, friends or support system<\/strong><strong>.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>A telltale sign of toxic relationships is when one person restricts resources that would keep the other person healthy and supported. Maybe you don\u2019t have access to the bank accounts, or your partner keeps track of your phone call records. Now, a relationship with healthy boundaries means you honor your partner\u2019s wishes if they ask you not to spend time with someone who\u2019s dangerous or a threat to your family. But if you\u2019re cut off from supportive and loving friends and family, that\u2019s a strong sign of a toxic relationship.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>14. <\/strong><strong>They treat every conversation like an attack.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Someone caught in toxic patterns treats every conversation like an attack. You can come to them calm and careful\u2014\u201cHey, can we talk about what happened this week?\u201d\u2014and they still fire back with anger or defensiveness.<\/p>\n<p>And over time, you start rehearsing every word and beating around the bush, afraid you\u2019ll set them off. That\u2019s not healthy conflict. That\u2019s your body telling you the relationship isn\u2019t safe for honest conversations or constructive criticism.<\/p>\n<table>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Sign<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Quick Snapshot<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>How It Shows Up<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>You don\u2019t feel emotionally safe.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You can\u2019t show up as your full, honest self.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You edit your thoughts, hide your feelings, or fear how they\u2019ll react to the truth.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>Communication is poor or nonexistent.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Conversations break down instead of bringing clarity.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You withdraw, explode, or get tangled in dishonesty, gaslighting, stonewalling or manipulation.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>You feel ignored, used or exploited.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Your needs aren\u2019t nurtured or supported.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They overlook your well-being and take from you without giving back.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>You feel like you\u2019ve lost your identity.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You\u2019ve disappeared into their wants and expectations.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You violate your values, ignore your limits, or reshape yourself to keep the peace.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>Judgment\u2014not curiosity\u2014is the norm.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They criticize instead of seeking to understand.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Your mistakes are weaponized, and compassion is replaced with condemnation.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>They belittle you or make you feel ashamed.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They tear you down to lift themselves up.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They mock, shame or highlight your failures to keep the power dynamic unbalanced.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>They show no empathy.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They don\u2019t (or won\u2019t) see the world through your eyes.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They dismiss your feelings, redirect conversations back to themselves, or one-up your experiences.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>They always blame you.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Responsibility is never shared.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You\u2019re the scapegoat for everything\u2014often paired with gaslighting that makes you question your reality.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>You\u2019re stuck in a dysfunctional relationship role.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Old family patterns dictate the relationship.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You take on roles like parent, caretaker or rescuer, while they avoid growth or accountability.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>You feel controlled or manipulated.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They seek power over your choices.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They track your movements, punish you emotionally, or make you responsible for their reactions.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>You\u2019re walking on eggshells around their anger.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Their rage sets the tone.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You hide parts of yourself to avoid their criticism, sarcasm or explosive reactions.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>Intense jealousy controls the relationship.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Normal independence triggers insecurity or suspicion.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They react to your everyday activities with jealousy\u2014or make you feel guilty for having a life outside of them.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>They restrict your money, friends or support system.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>They cut off your sources of strength.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Access to money, communication or relationships is monitored or limited.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p>They treat every conversation like an attack.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>Even calm topics turn into conflict.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td>\n<p>You rehearse your words, avoid honesty, or tiptoe around them to prevent blowups.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<h2><strong>What to Do if You\u2019re in a Toxic Relationship<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>So, what in the world do you do with all this information? Is it possible for a toxic relationship to change? While I can\u2019t help you come to that conclusion in a single article, here are a few things for you to consider as you move forward:<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Get out of the other person\u2019s head.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s tempting to pick apart and analyze other people\u2019s behavior, especially when someone hurts you deeply. But this is a complete waste of your time and emotional energy. Stop trying to figure them out and instead focus on what you\u2019re bringing to the table.<\/p>\n<p>You only have control over two things in this life: your thoughts and your actions. So get out of their head and spend more time in yours.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Recognize that behavior is a language.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Behavior is a language. If you\u2019re in a relationship with someone who repeatedly hurts or diminishes you, they\u2019re saying all you need to know\u2014even if they aren\u2019t using words. Read that again.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Ask:\u00a0Are we just in a toxic season?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Like I shared earlier, my wife and I have been through toxic seasons in our marriage. Sometimes life is just incredibly hard and one (or both) of you aren\u2019t handling it well. If you\u2019re going through a big transition, having a kid, or experiencing loss or illness, you might just need to hang in there and extend some extra grace. Remember that the earlier you get your feelings, hurts, and concerns out in the open, the sooner things can heal.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Paint a picture of the kind of relationship you want.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>You might be so used to toxicity that you don\u2019t even know what a healthy relationship looks like. Give yourself permission to dream about how you\u00a0<em>actually<\/em>\u00a0want to be treated. A healthy, supportive marriage only works if you wake up every day thinking,\u00a0<em>How can I make my partner\u2019s day better?<\/em>\u00a0(And if they think the same way about you!) It\u2019s not a 50\/50 split of effort and love and intention\u2014it\u2019s giving 100% each way. Everybody wins when you choose to put each other\u2019s needs in front of your own.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re worth having extraordinary relationships, even if you don\u2019t know what that looks like right now.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Talk to a trusted friend or counselor.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>You can\u2019t move from toxic relationships to healthy ones overnight. It takes time and practice. Open up with a trusted, kind and wise friend who can help you get some perspective. You might even need to see a\u00a0professional therapist. I tell other people how to do relationships for a living, and I still regularly see a professional. Yes, it\u2019s uncomfortable and expensive and hard work. Do it anyway. You can\u2019t afford not to.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Learn new relational tools.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Relational skills\u2014just like anything else in life\u2014can be learned. You might need to learn skills like assertiveness, boundaries,\u00a0self-forgiveness,\u00a0trust building, confrontation or vulnerability. One of the best ways to do this is to meet with a mental health professional (see above), but there are also tons of books, podcasts and other free resources. And as with any new tools, the key to getting better at using them is practice.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Leave if you need to.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>If your relationship is toxic through and through, it might be time to end it\u2014especially if you\u2019re dating. Getting married or having another baby won\u2019t solve your problems. In fact, it will probably make them worse. If you\u2019re just waiting around hoping they\u2019ll change someday, it\u2019s time to kill the fantasy and move on.<\/p>\n<p>But if you\u2019re married, don\u2019t be tempted to pull the plug on the relationship just because things get hard. Exhaust all your options before making a decision as final as\u00a0divorce. See a counselor, talk to a pastor, and do the work. Healthy, fulfilling relationships are worth the effort and awkwardness and hard conversations it takes to create them.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Take the Next Steps to Co-Create Healthy Relationships<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Relationships are messy. But you\u00a0<em>need<\/em>\u00a0them for a healthy, whole life. Don\u2019t run to the hills and swear off all relationships forever. Yes, they\u2019re risky. Yes, people will hurt you (and you\u2019ll hurt them too). But when done right, a good relationship is the most life-giving force on the planet. We need each other. Don\u2019t give up on people\u2014or yourself.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Read the full article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ramseysolutions.com\/relationships\/toxic-relationship-signs\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" rel=\"nofollow\">here<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The people in your life have a profound impact on your well-being. We\u2019ll all experience the ups and downs of living with and loving imperfect people, but ultimately, our relationships should be a source of joy\u2014not ongoing frustration or fear. A toxic relationship is one that consistently leaves you feeling unsafe, unheard or drained. 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